Those times when our patients were people from unsuccessful families grown by the street have passed. Our today's patient was grown in a family, outwardly, quite successful. He was brought up by "ideal" parents who are absolutely convinced in mind that all that they do in this life they are doing for their children. To be «the ideal parent» means always to be all-powerful, all-knowing, and unique for the child. Such parents have overcome a lot of the difficulties in life by themselves and now are trying to save and protect their children from any difficulties, satisfying all their requirements and unreasonably growing claims.

Actually, relations between members of such a family seriously and deeply deformed. Recently close people feel estrangement, misunderstanding and loneliness. The only way out from such situation is the unreasonable love to the child that is expressed in coddling, permissiveness, and protecting the child from slightest difficulties. Such a family absolutely addicts on desires and whims of the child. Within such relations with parents, the child forms a belief in his own greatness and simultaneously absolute feebleness, disability even to the slightest strain, what means in turn absolute dependence on a family.

When the drug addiction takes place, an addiction of the family on desires of the child becomes slavery. It does not mean that parents are not protesting against the drug addiction, they are protesting, but - only on words. In practice they are strictly providing the overage child, paying all his debts and relieving him from responsibility for his acts. "Illness" provides a comprehensible explanation of his infantilism and feebleness. The reason and the consequence are replacing each other. Then begins persistent repeated attempts of treatment of "the reason of family problems" with in advance predetermined result. Real changes take place only when the family can objectively see a situation, realize the role and make joint, adequate situations, acts. Our long experience of work with parents allows confirming unequivocally: the real result is possible only at active participation of all family in rehabilitation process.

Work on harmonization of family relations have different forms, which depend on specifics of a family and tasks of a stage of rehabilitation process. In all cases wide use of experience of the families which have successfully overcome addiction is obligatory. In any case, at the heart of our approach lays the principle according to which even the partial decision of a problem as a whole, is better than the full decision of its part.

Psychologists that have been trained in our centre are working with families in Poltava, Dnipropetrovsk and in Kyiv.